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How Denial and Avoidance Ruin Your Finances And Love Life communication defense mechanisms Nov 23, 2021

Denial is a common defense mechanism where you refuse to accept facts or reality.

Avoidance is a defense mechanism where you might avoid dealing with a tough issue through different behaviors and...

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What Is Defensive Projection And How Do You Overcome It? defense mechanisms Nov 16, 2021

Projection is a psychological defense mechanism where someone avoids recognizing their unacceptable impulses and traits by projecting them onto another person. 

In relationships, projection...

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6 Steps To Stop Gaslighting From Ruining Your Relationship communication defense mechanisms financial empathy Nov 08, 2021

Gaslighting is when someone tries to convince you that your sense of reality is wrong and not based on facts or evidence. Gaslighting can be very damaging to relationships. However, it’s not...

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4 Example Money Stories To Help You Understand Your Own money beliefs money stories Nov 04, 2021

Your financial story is powerful. More powerful than you likely fully recognize, at least consciously. 

 

I have been busy the last few months promoting my new book The Healthy Love...

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How Emotional Invalidation Impacts Your Relationship and Finances attachment style defense mechanisms Oct 28, 2021

Emotional Validation is an essential part of human interaction. It's a critical communication tool and an expression of acceptance and connection within relationships especially with family...

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What Is Defensiveness and How It Becomes A Vicious Cycle communication defense mechanisms Oct 20, 2021

Defensiveness is a psychological defense mechanism that is often used in response to criticism. 

This psychological defense mechanism is often used by couples during conflict and can lead to a...

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What Is Stonewalling and How It Damanges Your Relationship? communication defense mechanisms Oct 13, 2021

Stonewalling is a psychological defense mechanism that’s often used by a member of a couple during conflict. It is best known as the silent treatment or the cold shoulder.  

It can...

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What Is The Meaning of Marriage & Money In Your Life? attachment style marriage counseling Oct 07, 2021

As a Therapy Informed Financial Planner, I help couples go from financial frustration, resentment, anger, and shame to financial freedom, intimacy, and connection. 

Recently, I wrote a letter...

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